tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29921791.post2431591063231834342..comments2023-07-15T18:01:41.834+08:00Comments on This is what Sed said: Grieving and CovetingSarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07193896306650823769noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29921791.post-56373959323502295172013-08-31T18:33:37.644+08:002013-08-31T18:33:37.644+08:00Hi Joanna and welcome to my blog. Thanks for your...Hi Joanna and welcome to my blog. Thanks for your encouraging comment and I'm sorry to hear you've had a similar experience. What you said about others admitting they've had similar struggles is so true...it just takes one woman to be the brave one.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07193896306650823769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29921791.post-73826714991257952232013-08-30T18:01:59.936+08:002013-08-30T18:01:59.936+08:00Hi Sarah,
We don't know each other, but I jus...Hi Sarah,<br /><br />We don't know each other, but I just wanted to say that as someone who developed post natal anxiety, I have the same sadness. I still feel quite anxious when I see or hold newborns, even though my own sweet boy is a two year old and I am well and off my meds. It is a grief to lose a time that is constantly promoted as the most amazingly special time.<br />Facebook was a particular curse because as you say, it is full of apparently blissful mums cuddling their newborns and saying how marvelous it is! I didn't leave the house for months except with a support person or to get checked into the mother and baby unit. It was horrible!<br />And yet, without wanting to offer cheap comfort, the reality is that God willing, we have a lifetime to mother these children. There will be times we can do that we'll and enjoy it - and times when we really struggle and there is mainly pain. While I grieve that early period, I have accepted that some mums who loved their sleepy little newborn find them incredibly irritating and difficult as toddlers - whereas I have enjoyed this second year as a privilege now that the horrible anxiety has lifted. <br />And it is very true that Facebook is misleading. The more open I have been about my story, the more I have found that many, many women struggle deeply with that first few months/year. My sister-in-law, who has three lovely kids, said she still feels physically sick when she smells that ' newborn smell' because it was such a difficult time. Good for you for blogging about your PND - we need to be gentle with ourselves and with each other about this potentially traumatic time. And thank God for drugs!<br /><br />Blessings on you and your family as you recuperate - I hope you can be kind to yourself and have hope that this hard season will pass. Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09657340578955726604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29921791.post-69587926448206744272013-08-16T10:03:09.961+08:002013-08-16T10:03:09.961+08:00My struggles with comparison and envy have been di...My struggles with comparison and envy have been different to yours, but still I've had them and continue to struggle with them at times. As this blog post (which you've probably already seen) testifies: http://mmuser.blogspot.jp/2013/08/fighting-toxic-comparison.htmlWendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17882558757262419263noreply@blogger.com