It's been a long time since I updated this series.
Recent happenings in my local town have prompted me to write this post. A few weeks ago, I was considering auditioning for the latest play. As I read through the script at home, I mentioned to Duncan that the two female parts to which I would be suited both involved romantic overtures, including stroking the face of a much older man, or wearing 'suggestive' outfits. Duncan immediately told me he would feel very uncomfortable if I were to play one of those roles, even if it is 'only acting'. I respected his wishes and did not audition.
Now I have found out that the two people who played the leading roles in last year's pantomime went on to have an affair! The twist is that although he is single, she is a married mother, who I'm guessing is probably about fifteen years older than him. The result is the ending of a marriage, children in a broken home, a devastated husband, a school community in conflict. Both parties have left town....and aren't even together. So, was it worth it?
This was a huge wake-up call for me. Duncan was right to have reservations, even before we heard this scandal. I might think it's 'only acting', but I have to be careful. After all, how many Hollywood couples got together after playing on-screen lovers? A lot!
This isn't just about acting. I'm guessing most people reading this aren't involved in amateur theatre, but a heck of a lot are married or in relationships. We need to be careful about how we spend our time with people of the opposite sex who are not our spouse. I'm not saying don't have friends of the opposite sex, but be wise. If you're single, respect these boundaries.
It's not worth throwing away your marriage for.
Lesson 9 from Sarah's School of Dating
From Head to Hand: Being a Christian Writer (just as relevant to being a Christian actor)