I answered these questions I was commonly asked during my pregnancy with Rory here. I've decided to do it again (with a few extras) to see how much has changed the second time around.
Where are you having the baby?
Last time we went to a private hospital in Perth. It was a pretty good experience, but there are still out-of-pocket expenses when you go private. We can't afford maternity cover on one wage, so we've made the choice to go public in Albany. The new Albany hospital wasn't open when Rory was born, but I've since visited a friend and her baby in there and was impressed. There are all single rooms and it looks very flash. The only downside is that partners can't stay the night, but my parents live a stone's throw from the hospital, so Duncan and Rory will stay with them.
It's also much easier going to Albany for appointments with my parents there to babysit, instead of going all the way to Perth with a toddler in tow.
Public or private?
Are you having a boy or a girl?
My 19 week scan is next week, but, like with Rory, we won't be finding out the sex. It's really nice having a surprise after all the hard work of giving birth. Finding out the sex to me is like unwrapping your presents early because you couldn't wait until your birthday.
Are you excited/nervous/*insert some other emotion here*?
Again, all of the above. The scourge of postnatal depression still lurks in the back of my mind. The statistics are that if you've had PND previously, there's a 50-70% chance you'll get it again. But then a lot of women are also fine. My doctor has tried to reassure me that this time I'll be watched like a hawk, there will be safety nets in place because others are aware of my history, and I know where to go for support. I've remained on my antidepressants throughout the pregnancy because my doctor has assured me it's safe to do so. However, towards the end, she's going to reduce the dosage slightly as there is a chance the baby will suffer from withdrawals when he/she is born.
I'm actually a lot more excited about meeting the baby this time around. I know what it's like now, and I do miss newborn cuddles (an active toddler who is too busy for cuddles is not quite the same). I feel a lot of love for the bubba already.
Have you had any morning sickness?
Yes, oh yes. See here.
How are you going with the low starch diet?
I haven't been on that for over a year now, thanks to my Bioflow wristband.
Have you had any strange cravings?
Nope, I'm always very boring in that regard. No chalk or gravel for me haha. Like with Rory, I've craved a lot of carbs (pizza and ravioli are favourites at the moment). I also can't get enough Cookies and Cream icecream.
Do you have a bump?
I've had a bump since I was six weeks, and being summer, there were only so many 'tent dresses' I could find to hide it. Winter is definitely a lot easier to be hiding pregnancy in the early stages.
Are you wanting a girl?
No, I'm not. I don't need a 'pigeon pair'. I love my little fellow and I'd be more than happy with two boys. For us, it's all about numbers, not gender. When people tell me they're praying I'll have a girl, I tell them, "Please don't. Pray that the bubba will be healthy and sleep well. Thanks."
Is this the last?
We honestly don't know. A lot hinges on my postnatal health this time around. If I get PND again, we'll stop with two.
How do you think Rory will go with the baby?
This has been bothering me a bit. Rory doesn't like babies. When one crawls up to him, he looks disgusted and whinges at it, likes he wants the bubba to go away. He much prefers hanging out with big kids, but I've been telling him gently, "The big kids were nice to you when you were a baby, now it's your turn to be kind to small bubbas." I do worry that he'll be jealous and will hate me because I won't have enough time for him anymore. I'm a bit sad that my special time with just my firstborn is coming to an end. But I guess we'll all adjust...eventually.